support and empowerment for queer folx
and people living with HIv to
​accept, embrace and live their fabulous truth

Sound Familiar?
You are used to showing different versions of yourself to others, sacrificing authenticity to minimize humiliation
and prejudice. Perhaps this started in childhood, perhaps it's something you have started to do more recently.
Your one-true-self is lost and/or packed away.
The task before you is to unpack which parts of yourself are truly ​YOU and which parts you have created to protect yourself (consciously and unconsciously). I support you to do this by affirming your truth - giving you more
​space to breathe. From there you will create more balance, ​better health (and wealth) and stronger relationships and intimacy. The opportunities for a better life are endless!

I work with Queer Folx and People living with HIV who want to live their real life - not the pretend one created for others. Whether it's Coming Out, transitioning into a new reality, processing a Diagnosis,
​dealing with the fallout of lovers, families and friends reactions, or "just" consolidating your truth and growth.

Discarding blame, excuses, fears and apologies we will step outside of your comfort zone,
empowering you to create sustainable change. Sometimes working with me will be 
emotional and ​can be difficult ​​with all sorts of shit coming to the surface.
Shit Happens | We'll Deal with it!
 My sessions are always client-centered and incorporate a lot of me listening to you combined with
hypnosis, accountability check ins, guided meditations, visualizations, suggestions for rituals and other exercises and my no-nonsense, sometimes, potty-mouthed guidance.  I can incorporate nutrition and up-to-date medical knowledge and suggestions as necessary. My ability to connect with you on a deeply human
level using both my right brained intuition and creative thinking and my left brained 
logic and coordination ​skills make me uniquely able to hold space for you on your journey.

You will learn how to override old negative mindsets and limiting beliefs while recognizing your 
fabulousness. Not only for yourself but for those around you as well. Constantly apologizing is a
waste of time. There will be none of that here! Likewise the Blame Game is inconsequential to me. 
My personalized approach will get you working through even the hardest of truths
​with continued guidance and support from a trained professional along the way.

my ideal client is

looking for more

Your life has already been a roller-coaster ride, probably with your safety-belt firmly fastened. Think of the safety belt as your ingrained comfort zone which can hold you back, ​I’ll help you recognize what you really want, how to loosen that safety belt and dive right in to create lasting change.

ready for anything

True growth never originates from a place of doubt or pessimism. You will definitely be stepping outside your comfort zone so sometimes things may get "weird". It's necessary for you to be OK with this to fully embrace the changes we'll create.

self-care aware

Let's be honest for a tick. Stepping into your fabulous truth can be exhausting. I am able to help you to dig deep to get the most out of life while also recharging your batteries. If, however you’re seeking help for serious mental health issues, such as
​debilitating anxiety or depression, please contact a licensed therapist. Email me if you need a referral.

Experience your AHA moments and breakthroughs
​from the comfort of your own home.
All Sessions are held on Zoom.

my story

 I had a boyfriend in High School - let's call him Cain. Cain was different to my other boyfriends because we never
had sex. This was unusual for me because I had/have
a lot of sex.  I was sex positive before that was even
a term I suppose. My Dad didn't much like any of the boys
I knew but surprisingly he quite liked Cain. Except for that one awkward incident when I stayed out with him after curfew, they got on great. They shared a love of Boy George and Indonesian food. We would meet at the bus stop before school, went to every school dance together and we would talk about music for hours on end. I always knew that he wasn't like the other guys our age but
I never really thought too much about it. I wasn't
much like the other girls I knew either.
​We were a good pair of misfits.
After high school my family moved away to the Netherlands and Cain and I wrote each other letters constantly. I missed Australia so much - but mainly I missed Cain. A year later I returned to Australia to start University and Cain was at the airport to meet me. I'd never been so glad to see anyone in all my life. We organized a dinner to catch up;  he told me that he had something important to tell me, something he felt funny putting in a letter.

Long story short he told me he was Gay.

Without consciously knowing it, this was something I always knew.
I told him that.
We hugged and cried and laughed.
He was so relieved.

Coming Out is hard, especially with the people you love the most. In coming out Cain had unpacked some parts of himself that he was used to hiding. He was getting real.  

Almost immediately he asked if I would come out to Oxford Street with him. He was keen to explore and needed
an ally. In Sydney, Australia Oxford Street was the heart of the Queer Community. It's where all the bars and clubs were, the gay-owned businesses set up shop and where every March they would hold the Gay Mardi Gras Parade. 
Knowing that Cain needed a friend and because I knew we always had a great time together I did not even hesitate and we were out exploring it all together in the wink of an eye.

Honestly the two of us never looked back.

From those beginnings the people we met on Oxford Street and in Sydney's Queer scene became my real family. 
It was 1986 and AIDS had gripped the community. The hysteria around it meant that Gay bashings were a real and present danger. I've lost count of how many friends were stalked and bashed. Even the cops were in on it.
People we knew started to die and before I knew it I was often at a bed side of a dying man dealing with the shit that families would throw at us. I had more than one friend whose family swooped in when they were sick and removed them from us and our love and support. Flat mates and partners were tossed out and made homeless because they didn't appear on the lease. Men died alone with no-one at their side. The nurses at the AIDS ward became my heroes and, eventually I became one of them.

In some ways it was a terrible time, but it has made me the person I am today.....

The person that has organized and marched in protest for equitable access to HIV medications and against conservative religious zealots. I've also marched in celebration of Queer Pride. I've been the back-stage dresser for the Drag performers that went on to inspire the writer of the movie Priscilla Queen of the Desert; I've door bitched at Queer clubs and bars up and down Oxford Street, in London and in San Francisco; I was the lead Nurse on countless Clinical Research Studies bringing much needed HIV drugs to market, I've counseled and held space for literally hundreds of people as they were told they have HIV (and/or Herpes or one of the other less deadly but not less stigmatized STI's), I've worked closely with folks as they transitioned and have witnessed so many fabulous revelations; I have also witnessed (too) much death. 

The Language of the Queer Community is my Language. 
The Culture is my Culture.
The Community is my Community.
Cain once called me a Fag-Hag. I was mortified and we had a tiff. Looking back on that it now seems silly because honestly if I'm not a Fag-Hag I don't know who is. I mean my "matron of honor" at my wedding was a gay man and we wore matching blue gingham outfits. Cain and I still laugh all the time about how the life I live is all his fault. Funny thing is that I love it and my community so much that I wouldn't change it for the world. I really owe him a debt of gratitude for choosing me as the person he first came out to.

I am thankful for every coming out I am witness to. I look forward to working with you, I'd be honored to do so.

Read more about me here if you're up for it.
Or just go ahead and book that Free Curiosity Call today!
Wilma and Paul Goodyear Wedding Picture
My Big Queer Wedding

Fees

Coaching Packages $425/month 
The Package includes Three (3) Zoom Calls per month plus a personalized guided Meditation or Hypnosis recording monthly, role plays and suggestions for talking to the ones you love (or would like to love) and unlimited email contact related to your goals, outcomes and homework assignments. 

Your calls will be a combination of coaching techniques and/or hypnosis.
All Sessions are recorded and shared with you at the completion of each session.

My suggestion is that we work together for 3 months.

Ad-Hoc Sessions are $165/session
All sessions are recorded and shared with you in a follow up email along with your homework and my insights from the session.

Session Length
Your initial session is longer than the usual session length - at around 75 to 90 minutes. This is so that we can go through the intake paperwork you should have already completed. We'll then get to the heart of what brought you to me and do some work together. This may be by hypnosis or coaching techniques or a combination of both. 

Your subsequent sessions will be 50-60 minutes long. 

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**I maintain strict confidentiality. These reviews were approved for sharing by my clients.

mary ellen 2010

Wilma is a positive, warm, sensitive, uniquely compassionate person. Her style is supportive rather than directive. My progress came through her acceptance of my perspective while at the same time challenging my preconceptions and assumptions in a way that gave me a greater understanding of who I am and what I want out of life. 

Graham 2016

I was skeptical about working with Wilma because I'm not really a peace, love and mung beans kind of person and I thought that was what coaching was. Boy was I wrong! She's a gem. That's all there is to it.

Lou 2021

Wilma was an incredible nurse. She's now an incredible coach. Don't hesitate, just do it.

ROBiN 2019

Wow! Just Wow. Wilma is the real deal. She holds space with warmth and empathy. She also knows how to kick butt. Working with her has been the best decision I ever made. 

AMY 2012

Wilma is a terrific listener. She always heard my "underlying tones" even when I didn't always verbalize them. ​I was blessed by being able to have her as a coach and have her walk with me through who I am, where I am, where I want to be in life.

LAUREN 2018

Wilma has a no nonsense way about her and her reflections are spot on. I have never felt so supported. I also love her stories. She seemingly has one for every occasion and they're FunNAY.

BRODIE 2012

​Your support, flexibility and approach to working with me has been so FANTASTIC! You have literally saved my life - literally.

Phillip 2014

I was paralyzed by fear due to my recent HIV+ status. Wilma helped me to face the fear but rather than reacting to it I learnt to respond before acting. I learnt to create boundaries and to take control of the dialogues I have with people about it. She really is amazing.

Ben 2011

What I loved most were the ponderings Wilma would give me at end of each session via email. I found the extra time to think them through combined with the support on the calls has made me have huge shifts in thinking. I came into our coaching relationship in a really negative head space but Wilma never let me dwell there. I've made huge changes and am grateful to have found her.